I’m pulling back out my list of reasons to lose weight, and making weight loss my one thing, again.
I’ve got 15 lbs left. After 4 pregnancies, each gaining 50 lbs, I’ve got 15 left. I’ve been tempted to just let it slide, let it take awhile. But I’ve realized I can’t.
Do you know why? You.
You’re my why. And so are my kids and my husband and all of my friends and family. But they already love me just the way I am. They understand that I just had 4 big baby boys in the last 8 years. And to lose weight you have to be really committed, even a bit hard on yourself. And that can be hard for those closest to you.
When you want to lose weight, you need to either drastically change your circumstances so that you are pushed to do the right behavior over a period of time without thinking about it, or – if you are a mom like you and I and you can’t just go off to hypothetical boot camp for a few months – you have to find a really compelling reason that will push you to develop the inner fortitude and strength of will that will enable you to engage in the right behavior day in and day out for several months, right now in the middle of your life. And I would say that more kids you have the harder that is. Your perceived obstacle might be different. What matters is that it is ultimately a mental battle that you have to win, to find the mindset that will carry you past today, tomorrow, and the day after that.
I have paired down my life this summer and fall to the absolutely necessary time commitments and have been in what I finally realized was a type of mental sabbatical. Because I’ve really been contemplating what I want to do with my life now that I’m done bearing children. I finished nursing a couple of months ago, and in a couple of months I will only have one child in diapers, and I’ll have two that can help with the dishes and the laundry.
This year I’ve been trying to figure out what my problem is. Does anyone else feel restless? I’m at home with my toddler and baby. I’ve worked hard to get this point, a nice house, nice part time job, large family, most of the rooms in our once-white house have finally been painted. I spent most of this year decluttering. I’ve started one last push to lose the final baby white from my fourth and final pregnancy.
Why am I so restless? What am I missing? What do I not know about myself that makes me feel this way? I’ve got a bachelor and a master’s degree. I miss the intellectual dialogue of the classroom and of that community – when I was taking classes. But I don’t miss the hours writing papers and taking tests.
I can’t shake this feeling that all of the pieces of the puzzle of my life are leading up to something beyond what I’m doing now. And it’s you. You are my passion, my purpose, the reason I can’t be content changing diapers and cleaning bathrooms.
I’ve been given gifts and have been developing skills that are meant to help you as a mom, to empower you to live the life you are meant to live.
As I’ve been searching for the answer to who you are, I see two different sides of my life, and I don’t know which one to choose because they are both me. So I finally decided to continue with this site as a resource for stay at home moms, about self improvement and finding mental and emotional energy. Whether you are working part time or not, if you ever get restless, or feel bored and overwhelmed at the same time, I want to help you with everything I have learned and am still learning, both from experience, from friends and from my insatiable book habit.
I’m going to make this blog a bit more of an unplugged version of my life. Here you’ll hear about what I’m thinking, feeling, reading, right now. The book I couldn’t put down last night might be my next blog post.
A Second Site
I also decided to start a second site, 4DayMarketer.com, because I have realized that all of the knowledge I’ve gained in the past 8 years about advertising and marketing and learning online software could have a powerful impact on the lives of moms who have embraced the challenge of starting their own business. I have started learning everything I can about that challenge and in the meantime I’ll be writing on both sites.
You are my Inspiration
Back to my main point – you are the reason I’m losing weight. It’s on my heart to be the person that I want to help you become, and to model perserverance, discipline, excellence, calculated risk-taking, life-long learning and overall character building. And I’ve realized that weight loss is the ultimate first indicator of self control. I don’t mean to make a statement about anyone who has struggled to lose weight. I’ve read a lot of the science and there are a lot of valid reasons people can struggle to lose weight. But I know in my heart that for me, right now, I am the only thing standing in my way – in the way of a healthier weight, a healthier me, a healthier lifestyle for the rest of my life. Weight loss is a positive domino that will affect those around me and all of the parts of my life, including my ability to be successful blogging.
The Right Weight Loss Behavior
Above I referred to the “right behavior”. It’s actually really simple: move more and eat less.
But beyond that of course there are a bunch of ways that can look. I’ll be sharing in upcoming weeks about strategies I love and things that have worked for me. And I’ll probably tend to share more about motivation and psychology than recipes and exercises because I think we know what to do, it’s really a matter of getting ourselves to do it!
If you’re on this journey too, comment below and let me know!
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